Random Musings.....

-Apparently 42 is the magical age where I no longer care which celebrity is screwing who. On the other hand, if you want to gossip about which acquaintance/friend is screwing who, I'm all ears. Stories of friends going off of the deep end and inappropriately banging somebody never gets old.

-Trying to talk reason with a teenager is like trying to communicate with a brick wall. Trying to talk reason with a teenaged girl is like trying to communicate with a brick wall...that cries.

-Watching Nova special on the Great Sphinx. A lesser known monument was a giant hole dug in the ground next to it called the Great Sphinx-ter. OK, I don't actually know if that is true, but it SHOULD be.

-It just dawned on me....Life: No one thing is weird, it's ALL weird. Seriously, any human behavior I can think of is really just pure, dysfunctional, fear based hilarity. I guess it's a Darwinistic thing, in that evolution is a process of refinement to better achieve needs, and the end result is a smorgasbord of highly refined, and in a survival context, effective insanity. The human comedy indeed.

Compromise vs. Reality

A thought occurred to me today re: compromise vs. reality. It was a simple thought really, and the thought was this: we stop looking at things as a 'compromise' once we accept 'reality'. I've had many a conversation where folks have said "I refuse to compromise and will hold out until I get exactly what I want." Then they go about living a rather insane life of repeating the same behavior, i.e. chasing perfection and idealizing others to falsely fit into the image of perfection, only to be disappointed over and over again once the 'reality' (nothing is perfect) has set in. Then they repeat the same behavior and expect a different result (the very definition of insanity). I think we've all been guilty of this behavior at various points in our lives, and maybe the only thing that makes any of us different from another is if and when we learn the difference between compromise and reality. Reality IS compromise. Nothing is perfect...everything is flawed. When we learn that to seek perfection (another way of saying 'refuse to compromise') is a fruitless endeavor, and we learn to accept the reality that compromise is what leads to satisfaction, I think we can truly start to learn happiness. There is no way we will ever get everything we want, and no one person can be all things to another. But once we can accept the reality that people have flaws, just as we ourselves do, and we accept those flaws for the trivial things they may be, we can see the value that the truly good people in our lives have to offer, and maybe, for the first time, truly appreciate them for the special people they are...even though we had to 'compromise' to see and finally feel it. What can I say? Reality suddenly seems much more exciting than fantasy, and isn't that as it should be?